Jas 3:6 And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. So the tongue is set among our members, spotting all the body and inflaming the course of nature, and being inflamed by hell.
Jas 3:7 For every kind of animals, and of birds, and of reptiles, and of sea-animals, is tamed, and has been tamed by mankind.
Jas 3:8 But no one can tame the tongue, it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.
Jas 3:9 By this we bless God, even the Father. And by this we curse men, who have come into being according to the image of God.
Jas 3:10 Out of the same mouth proceeds blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so.
We are all so guilty every single day of allowing our tongues to speak uncontrolled and unbridled. We complain and complain, we are negative, we are mean-spirited to co-workers... and we immediately turn around and tell someone to have a "blessed day." or we say, "God is good ALL the time..."
We must be careful what we speak out loud about ourselves and about others. We must guard our hearts and remember what God's word says about us...about who we are. We must be so very careful about what comes out of our mouths. We can "kill" ourselves with our tongues and it's words as easily as we can others. We can destroy self-esteem, we can kill spirits, we can wound hearts, we can deceive with lies (intentional or unintentional), and lead someone astray...
We can speak softly with kindness, peace, and love. We can watch our words and control our outbursts of wrath and anger. By doing so, we can share the light and love of Jesus Christ and be peacemakers and encouragers. We must watch what we say, what we think. We need to concentrate on the good things worth thinking about. The best thing we can do is live by Phillipians 4:8-9:
Php 4:8Finally, my brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are honest, whatever things are right, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report; if there is any virtue and if there is any praise, think on these things.
Php 4:9 Do those things which you have also learned and received and heard and seen in me. And the God of peace shall be with you.